"Having Problems With
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Save Your Marriage - Solve Problems - Fire Up The
Love!
Do
you have a problem-laden marriage? Solve your problems, restore the love, and get the fire
back in your marriage in the shortest time possible.
Many
people ask, “Why does marriage have to be so hard? Why does it cause so many problems?” My
answer is simple. Marriage does not cause problems, nor should it be problem
laden.
Marriage
just unites people together who are in love. That’s a good thing, however, for some couples the
love turns sour and the problems take the forefront. That should not and does not have to be.
Every
marriage couple faces occasional problems that they must work out, but the problems do not have
to take over the marriage.
Life
in general has problems that we have to work out occasionally. And we seem to deal with most
problems logically and tenaciously. So why does it seem more difficult to work out marriage
problems?
I
think what can make it difficult are two things. The problem of two people with different points
of view having to make joint decisions and the other...f-e-e-e-lings! But even with these to
deal with, many couples have worked it out so that they can still have a meaningful and loving
relationship. So can you.
The difference between a
successful marriage and a failing marriage is how you and your spouse deal with the problems,
decisions, and the feelings that go along with them. If you can face your problems and decisions
with love, respect, and patience your marriage will grow in love and you will overcome your
problems.
All
you need to do is learn to deal with you marriage problems.
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Marriage: Solve Problems Through Communication!
Without good
communication, problems are sure to develop and grow. Good communication is absolutely
essential for a happy and loving relationship. You must
take time to communicate and talk about the marriage problems, to solve the problems and get
the love flowing back into your relationship again.
Here is a simple outline you can follow for better communication:
1. Choose a time to talk about a problem. One problem at a time, please.
2. Pick a time when you will most likely be fresh and relaxed. Make sure you are not tired, angry,
or grumpy. Remember, the point is to resolve a problem, not have another argument.
3. Start off by reassuring each other of your love and desire to overcome this problem.
4. Show respect for your spouse’s feelings and views. They may seem foolish to you, but they are
serious to your spouse. Speak lovingly and respectfully. Again, the purpose of this time is to
resolve a problem, not to fight.
5. Make sure you stick with the present issue and do not bring up problems from the past that have
already been dealt with. Leave those dead bones in the grave.
6. Work on only one problem at a time, solve it, then move
on.
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Marriage: Solve Your Problems Through Compassion And
Understanding!
The first thing you and your spouse should do is be sure you understand what the problem really is.
So how do you do that?
Each of you
write down what you think the problem is (no accusations or criticism please). As an example,
instead of saying, "You don't care about my feelings", say, "I need to know you love and care
for me in tangible ways."
Accusations
put the other person on the defensive, and once someone gets defensive, nothing will be
accomplished.
Be careful not to criticize
or tell your spouse that he or she is wrong…just listen and try to put yourself in your spouse's
shoes. Remember that people can't help the way they feel, but you can change the way they feel
through caring love and by meeting their need. That's what real love does!
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Marriage: Solve Problems With Loving
Responses!
Now that you understand your spouse's feelings it's time to show some love. Keep in mind that real
love is not just a feeling. Yes, real love will produce feelings, but real love is greater and much
more enduring than feelings. Real love is something you can observe in the words and actions of the
lover.
So what’s next?
Make a list of possible solutions to the problem. Solve the problem with love in action. Decide on
a solution that seems best to both of you and make a plan to put it into practice.
Here’s an example. If you have been constantly criticizing one another, your plan may go something
like this:
1. Whenever one of you says something that hurts the other, you will raise your hand. You don’t say
anything, you just raise your hand and the other person will know that they have crossed a line
that you both agreed on.
2. The one who spoke harmfully will immediately stop and say, "I'm sorry honey, I love your and I
really don't want to hurt you." This can be humbling, but humility is a good thing when trying to
resolve problems.
3. The one who was hurt will say, "I love you too" and it will be dropped forever, never to be
brought up again.
This little plan works! Don't take it lightly. Speaking negatively and harmfully is a bad habit
that can be broken. Use this plan, give it some time, and you both will be a lot happier...and your
home will be a lot more peaceful!
Get the love flowing in your marriage – solve those problems
now!
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